Source: Truths You Won’t Believe

Debunking more lies and racist misinformation about black men. Stop the ignorance and start to question why these myths exist in the first place, if not to demonize black men and promote the image of us as inherently criminal and violent and incapable of being educated. 

This coupled with the recent realization that black women are the most educated group…

It seems like there is this always present “when is the ‘black community’ going to pull themselves up from the bootstraps” question that floats around everywhere I go. Yet on micro and macro levels black excellence and success is only growing exponentially with each year - despite racism, institutional barriers, lack of privilege, colorblind ideologies and rampant gentrification.

Now imagine the gains we’d be able to make if people were willing to have these conversations and actually think critically about our society and culture



When you see me show me your bachelors, show me your masters. That’s the best thing you can do for me, as my fan.


i haven’t found the source video yet.

I love the way Nicki encourages people with education. I’ve seen her ask about report cards on Twitter and tell young people to bring their C’s up to B’s and B’s up to A’s. And this quote is too awesome. ❤



Kelly McBride (@kellymcb) wrote an article on Poynter that included information about me. She failed to do any research about me before writing this article. The end result was that I had people harassing me online because they were misinformed as a result of…


These are my favorite brown entries from the brilliant I, too, am Oxford project, inspired by the I, too, am Harvard project, depicting students of color speaking out against the prejudice and racism they suffered at a top learning institution.  







If you don’t understand how a person can be both a feminist and pro-life please let me know so I can unfollow you. I do not need to see your ignorant…

Central to the political agenda of Men’s Rights Activists is floating the idea that men somehow have a “right” to an abortion, or more accurately a right to interfere with a woman’s right to an abortion. MRAs argue that women’s autonomy is directly oppressive to men because men are disallowed input as to whether or not women should give birth. Thus, they argue that the state should intervene by forcing women to consult men before they can legally abort a pregnancy or that women or doctors should be held legally accountable to men after an abortion has taken place, usurping their right to self-determine.

Unfortunately, this hazardous ideology has been taken seriously and supported by a few lawmakers.


I recently shared a few tweets about the the patriarchal, misogynistic, male privilege, entitled, and utterly repulsive notion (usually proffered by cishet/hetero men) of the “friend zone” that refuses to die. Refuses! I’ve written about this in the past and about how it connects to Nice Guys™ (not *any* men with many personality facets and moods that include niceness, but a very specific type here) in Nice Guys™ and Race, "Divide and Conquer," Passive Aggression and Bad Dating Tactics, Boring and Entitled ≠ Nice and Nice Guys™ and Feminism. There I discussed the specifics about the entitlement and passive aggressive misogyny involved in the myth of this “friend zone” and related issues. Thus, here I’ll mention something else.

I am really disturbed by how misconstrued and degraded the notion of friendship is. Not all romantic relationships involve sex; thus, the absence of sex does not make a relationship automatically a friendship in the traditionally platonic sense, period. Sexual attraction is not the only type of attraction that exists. Friendship does not exist between two people solely because they know each other and one of the people who has sexual desire/intentions doesn’t make that known and expects the other person to be aware of it, initiate something and desire them sexually. Pursuing someone solely for sex or for a sexual romantic relationship entitles the pursuant to absolutely nothing. No one else is required to satiate someone else’s desires unless they want to and both consent. 

Women do not owe men anything solely because those men perceive themselves as “nice.” I am specific now because it is predominately cishet/hetero men suggesting that a “friend zone” exists in regards to not being able to have sex with/date women at their will. The notion that performing niceness (because actually being thoughtful is not a performance in hopes of a reward) for a sexual reward without conveying sexual interest and not making what is desired clear and known is sheerly inadequacy at best, manipulation at worst. This seems to be especially awful for Black women (which I mentioned in my essay Nice Guys™ and Race) since how Black women are devalued interracially and intraracially impacts the male gaze, especially the hetero Black male gaze. So the idea that Black women have no empowerment or entitlement to choose or to reject who we don’t desire (and not all Black women or any women are automatically heterosexual and desire men just because those men are “nice” in their own opinions) directly connects to other dehumanizing stereotypes that are used justify violence against us. 

And sure, I know that some women also ascribe to this myth of the “friend zone” where they perceive friendship as the absence of sex. Of course. Patriarchy doesn’t only impact how men perceive relationships; women and other people who aren’t men are impacted too. But because of how patriarchy assigns the most power to cishet men, the related perception of entitlement to women’s bodies is much higher for them than anyone else. Certainly this is affected by other intersectional factors such as race; strugglingtobeheard pointed out in the differences between “friend zone” rhetoric of White and Black men in regards to structural power.

Several things need to occur beyond obvious deconstruction of patriarchy and awareness of male privilege. One is evaluation of what an actual friendship is and looks like is needed. The rejection of “entitlement without communication” is needed. If these men think that “friendship” is a parking place until they can be sexual, then not only do they devalue friendship, they devalue sexual romantic relationships as well. They, themselves, need to figure out what these relationships look like for them. Because what some men suggest these relationships should be is truly pitiful. Seriously.



Idris Elba as Heimdall in Thor: The Dark World

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Facebook is at it again.No critical examinations of whiteness or race allowed!


Facebook is at it again.

No critical examinations of whiteness or race allowed!


Lupita Nyong’o, 2014 Oscar nominee for Best Actress in a Supporting Role, 12 Years a SlavePhotographed by Christian MacDonald, Vogue, January 2014See more Oscar nominees from the Vogue archives.


Lupita Nyong’o, 2014 Oscar nominee for Best Actress in a Supporting Role, 12 Years a Slave

Photographed by Christian MacDonald, Vogue, January 2014

See more Oscar nominees from the Vogue archives.